TWIN SISTER AND HER BOYFRIEND

Hi Catherine,
I have a twin sister that is my closest friend in the same time. We live still together but some time ago she found a boyfriend and I feel lost. I feel like part of me is dead. I don't want to be addicted but I have a feeling like she left me. Maybe I'm just jealous of her happiness. What should I do? 

Maggie

Hi Maggie,

first thing that you have to do is talk to your sister. As you said - she is also your friend. Yet your twin sister which I think that this is a big plus for you. You grew up together and I'm sure that your sister will listen to your problems and will be helpful. 

Her boyfriend means a new life chapter for her. Start of something beautiful and new. You shouldn't feel bad about it. Or that she left you. You should be proud of her. 

Somehow I'm sure that she is not with her love 24/7 so she has some time for you. And that time you can turn into your benefit. And just tell her about your issue.

I don't think you are jealous of her happiness. I feel a little bit of despair coming out of you. And this despair makes you sad. It's not good thing. You shouldn't close your emotions and lock them deep inside you.

You should find some hobbies. Or maybe even buy a dog or a cat because they can be really good friends sometimes. 

I remember when I had a cat and was single. Her name was Kit. Just like the siamese one from Charmed TV Show. And every day, when I came at home from the work, she was waiting for me and purred and purred. And it brought me a couple of happy feelings. Maybe a pet would cheer you up too. 

So don't be desperate, don't be sad and just have a nice conversation with your sister. Yet don't forget your hobbies! All your life you were with your sister. I think that this is the sign to start your new life chapter to. And become independent. Because you have full right for it. You own all that time to yourself. 

If you are honest with you, you will be the most happiest person in the whole world.

Please, don't forget that.

Your Catherine